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I am Sally O'Reilly, BA Psych, MA Couns Psych, MIAHIP, SIAHIP, MEAP. I work in full time private practice as a Counselling Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Supervisor accredited with the IAHIP (Irish Association of Humanistic and Integrative Psychotherapy, which is a member of ICP). I also hold the European Certificate of Psychotherapy from the EAP.

I offer individual and couples sessions, and I work with all ages, including children.

My main practice is in East Cork, Youghal, and I have appointments available in Ladysbridge as well.

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Sally O'Reilly

 

6 fake apologies and how to spot them

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I'm pretty certain that you, like me, have been left feeling a little chilled at some point after receiving a long-awaited apology. Instead of feeling relief, you’re left with a churning stomach, your heart is thumping, you’re feeling de-centred, uncertain, maybe even irritated. (I initially posted this one on TwoWiseChicks, a sister blog I write with a friend and colleague - please do feel free to have a look!)

I'm pretty certain that you, like me, have been left feeling a little chilled at some point after receiving a long-awaited apology. Instead of feeling relief, you’re left with a churning stomach, your heart is thumping, you’re feeling de-centred, uncertain, maybe even irritated.

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Do you over-apologise?

Sorry, I'm having a feeling..

We say "sorry" to much. I'm very conscious of hearing the word in therapy, on the street, in the school where I work once a week, shops.. and so on ad nauseum. We're all apologising, usually unnecessarily. And it seems to me that the less confident among us do it more often. I'm very interested in how we use words and how that teaches other people how to treat us, and that's why I wrote this piece (for this blog and for TwoWiseChicks, the blog I co-author with my wise, lovely friend and colleague Tanya).

We say 'sorry' too much.

This isn't a criticism, more of an observation. "Sorry!" has become a social nicety, a social convention, that seems to have gone terribly wrong. Over-saying sorry not only dilutes its true meaning, it can also be a way we in which we unwittingly dismiss ourselves and allow others to follow suit.

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Are your friends bad for you? Toxic friendships and knowing when to let go.

Choosing friends = minding you!

Ending a friendship can hurt deeply. For those of us who have experienced this particular brand of hell we know that losing a friend can be more complex and more difficult to recover from than the loss of a romantic relationship.

And sometimes (most times?) it is the best way to develop a deeper understanding of our needs and wants, and can therefore be the first step towards developing healthier, more fulfilling friendships than ever before.

Once we're done grieving.

Here I look how to recognise the sign of a toxic friendship, one you would do well to escape. Because just as we can walk away from a romantic partner when we are unhappy, we can also walk away from friends that aren't good for us. And just as with romantic partners, apart from the odd gut feeling niggle, we may not fully realise we're involved with toxic people until we really allow ourselves to think about it. 

I first posted this piece on sister site TwoWiseChicks.

 

 

Did you know that friendships have an average shelf life of 7 years?

The ones that last longer are the deeper friendships that are truly nourishing and good. They are worth your investment, because the joy, fun, trust, encouragement and support outweigh the irritations, the upset, the clashes (which are normal). Even if you rarely actually see eachother!

Cool.

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Treating Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

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I often hear people jokingly say "Aaah I have a touch of the SADS". We moan about the greyness of winter, the early nights, the short days. We say it affects us, but does it really? Here's an article that explores the phenomenon of Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD. This post was written by a fellow psychotherapist Joseph Burgo and appeared on Fix.com here.

I often hear people jokingly say "Aaah I have a touch of the SADS". We moan about the greyness of winter, the long nights, the short days. We say our mood is 'dark', we hope for light 'to be shed' on things, we long for something to brighten our mood, we talk of Winter dreariness. We say it affects us, it's built into our language. But does it really affect us?

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The only New Year's Resolution you'll ever need!

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Every New Year's Eve millions of us resolve to do something differently and for many of us ends in remorse, guilt and loss of hope. Familiar? Here are (some of) my thoughts on resolutions and how to make one that will stick.

It's New Year's Eve again! When I was fifteen and an avid science fiction fan (still am) I couldn't wait for 2015 to see what kind of technology we'd have. That is if I made it to 2015 of course. I figured I'd be lucky to live past 25 - that was very old…

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Christmas Sanity Guide Part 3: Self-care tips for YOU.

Be nice to you this Christmas

Well there are just a few days to go and the excitement (and stress) are mounting with every minute! How are you doing? What are you doing for yourself these days? 

Do you find Chiristmas tiring? Do you get ratty, snappier than usual? more emotional? or even sick at this time of year? I've experienced that, and I believe it's our bodies' way of saying  'Y'know what? I exist too, there's only one of me, so pleeease mind me". 

Here is my third post of the three part Christmas Sanity series: my tips for you to mind you.

We all think of Christmas as a time for giving to others. And that's nice, it  really is, but when did you last give to yourself? Not necessarily a material gift, but time to yourself or with a rarely seen loved one, fun, nurturing things?

We often forget about ourselves and fret instead about the people we love. Are we not allowed to love ourselves?

(Yes we are!).

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A guide to staying sane at Christmas, part 2: When Hell is other people.

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The social part of Christmas is particularly challenging for many of us. The ideal is that we call meet beloved friends and family and relax, laugh and celebrate. The reality though can be very, very different. Christmas can be a time when we find ourselves in company we'd rather avoid, and at its worst, Christmas is a time when abuse escalates. In this post I want to give you tips on how to manage the social (and antisocial) side of Christmas.

So here's part two of guide to staying sane for the holidays (part one here)

The social part of Christmas is fun.

Ideally.

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