Author Archives: Sally O'Reilly

About Sally O'Reilly

I am a Counselling Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor with almost twenty years' experience. I run a full-time private practice in two locations with a special interest in working with adolescents. I also enjoy blogging here and I co author TwoWiseChicks.com with a friend and colleague. I'm also privileged to also write for Voiceboks.com and contribute to other web, print and radio media.

Are your thoughts driving you crazy?

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I’ve taken up running again (grateful nod to the best physio in the world), and to keep me company I’ve downloaded hours of nerdy sciencey podcasts – and it’s brilliant!

My current addiction is “You Are Not So Smart” – it’s super informative and one doesn’t have to be a scientist or academic to ‘get’ it. And it has this way of helping you to understand that a lot of what you thought you knew is wrong – or at least has been improved upon. If only I could force all the world leaders to subscribe … AND it’s free! ( As I’m here I also recommend 99% Invisible and The infinite Monkey Cage which is very funny as well as fascinating).

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Fidget Spinners: Fix or Fad?

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The lovely people at parenting site Voiceboks.com invited me to write an opinion piece on the latest craze ( As I type though I wonder is it already dying out??) –

You know them, you’ve seen them everywhere if you’re a parent – Fidget Spinners

Dizzying array…ch-ching!€€€££££$$$$$$

 

If you’ve been pestered/advised/guilted into buying one or a million of these there may a few things to consider first.

 

 

 

 

The problem is that there is no evidence of effectiveness for the treatment of ADHD. In fact, to my… share with a fellow parent

PS: This dog gif IS pretty great though:

via GIPHY

Helping your child with body image issues

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Children as young as three are presenting with body image issues these days – that might sound hard to believe, but there it is.

Isn’t that sad?

How can we help them to embrace their bodies without hatred, without judgement? #parenting #bodyimage share with a friend

Disturbing 2016 stats by PACEY.

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Can we stop dismissing rape and excusing rapists please?

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It’s great to see a rapist be convicted and receive an actual sentence in Ireland. How sad that I am surprised and relieved.

HOWEVER, we really need to stop with the “no previous convictions” nonsense – which says nothing of a rapist’s character.

The rapist is a rapist – there’s his character right there.

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Manchester: Parenting in the Aftermath

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You’ve heard about Manchester of course. 22 dead as I type, including kids. Kids for God’s sake. At a concert, having fun, then literally – boom.
What.The.Hell.
Pray-For-Manchester
You may have teared up like I did when you saw the photo of the first victim identified – a sparkly happy photo taken of her with her idol Arianna, the same idol she watched last night. How I hope she enjoyed it.

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On staying together for the sake of the kids

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“What caught him off guard though was that at some level he felt ‘programmed’ to bring conflict and drama into the relationship. Even where there was no evidence of cheating he suspected it. Even though he loved her free spirit he felt he should curtail it in case she ran off. Even though he admired her intelligence he found himself calling her stupid. When things were good he was waiting for something to go wrong – enjoying peace and fun felt alien and weird.
So if it didn’t ‘go’ wrong, he’d make it go wrong.”

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Trouble Saying No?

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It’s a teeny weeny little word and yet it can be so hard to say! (unless you’re a toddler..)

I used to have a lot of trouble with this one – sometimes I still have trouble, truth be told. Why is it so hard?

For most of us saying “no” means riddling ourselves with guilt and being terrified of judgement. People who habitually say “yes” are approvingly described as “selfless” – like that’s a good thing. But is it really a good thing? (more…)

A Leaving Cert Survival Guide

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It’s mid May already and we all know what that means…

It’s an incredibly stressful time for students. The reality is hitting – no doubt bashed in by the orals and practicals – and the panic will be well and truly setting in for many of you this week. Oh how I don’t envy you..

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