Author Archives: Sally O'Reilly

About Sally O'Reilly

I am a Counselling Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor with almost twenty years' experience. I run a full-time private practice in two locations with a special interest in working with adolescents. I also enjoy blogging here and I co author TwoWiseChicks.com with a friend and colleague. I'm also privileged to also write for Voiceboks.com and contribute to other web, print and radio media.

The trouble with “provocation” & domestic violence

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It’s been pretty harrowing listening to today’s coverage of the case of domestic violence that culminated in the murder of a young mother. The man, who strangled his wife and allegedly threatened to kill her on more than one occasion is pleading guilty to manslaughter, not to murder. That’s one issue I have with this case.

The real issue I have, closely related, is that nature of his reasoning – he says he was ‘provoked’.

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Road rage – what’s the story?

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It was a glorious September morning. I had just had a great run, finished my physio homework pain-free and was pretty much on a high as I left the gym to drive to work in Youghal. As I prepared to turn right at the gate, a silver Audi approaching from my left, turned right into the gateway cutting across me. I slammed on the brakes narrowly preventing a nasty collision.

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Are your thoughts driving you crazy?

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I’ve taken up running again (grateful nod to the best physio in the world), and to keep me company I’ve downloaded hours of nerdy sciencey podcasts – and it’s brilliant!

My current addiction is “You Are Not So Smart” – it’s super informative and one doesn’t have to be a scientist or academic to ‘get’ it. And it has this way of helping you to understand that a lot of what you thought you knew is wrong – or at least has been improved upon. If only I could force all the world leaders to subscribe … AND it’s free! ( As I’m here I also recommend 99% Invisible and The infinite Monkey Cage which is very funny as well as fascinating).

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Fidget Spinners: Fix or Fad?

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The lovely people at parenting site Voiceboks.com invited me to write an opinion piece on the latest craze ( As I type though I wonder is it already dying out??) –

You know them, you’ve seen them everywhere if you’re a parent – Fidget Spinners

Dizzying array…ch-ching!€€€££££$$$$$$

 

If you’ve been pestered/advised/guilted into buying one or a million of these there may a few things to consider first.

 

 

 

 

The problem is that there is no evidence of effectiveness for the treatment of ADHD. In fact, to my… share with a fellow parent

PS: This dog gif IS pretty great though:

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Helping your child with body image issues

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Children as young as three are presenting with body image issues these days – that might sound hard to believe, but there it is.

Isn’t that sad?

How can we help them to embrace their bodies without hatred, without judgement? #parenting #bodyimage share with a friend

Disturbing 2016 stats by PACEY.

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Can we stop dismissing rape and excusing rapists please?

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It’s great to see a rapist be convicted and receive an actual sentence in Ireland. How sad that I am surprised and relieved.

HOWEVER, we really need to stop with the “no previous convictions” nonsense – which says nothing of a rapist’s character.

The rapist is a rapist – there’s his character right there.

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Manchester: Parenting in the Aftermath

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You’ve heard about Manchester of course. 22 dead as I type, including kids. Kids for God’s sake. At a concert, having fun, then literally – boom.
What.The.Hell.
Pray-For-Manchester
You may have teared up like I did when you saw the photo of the first victim identified – a sparkly happy photo taken of her with her idol Arianna, the same idol she watched last night. How I hope she enjoyed it.

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On staying together for the sake of the kids

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“What caught him off guard though was that at some level he felt ‘programmed’ to bring conflict and drama into the relationship. Even where there was no evidence of cheating he suspected it. Even though he loved her free spirit he felt he should curtail it in case she ran off. Even though he admired her intelligence he found himself calling her stupid. When things were good he was waiting for something to go wrong – enjoying peace and fun felt alien and weird.
So if it didn’t ‘go’ wrong, he’d make it go wrong.”

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